Tag Archive for rape

| February 18, 2013
12 comments

Rape Culture Part 1 – Infantalizing Women

Trigger Warning for discussion of rape, rape fantasies, consensual non-consent, and BDSM. This is a 6 part series that will be updated weekly, focusing on rape culture, rape fantasies, and consent.

I joined a group on FetLife that was dedicated to rape fantasies. My goal was to explore how to reconcile having rape fantasies, and writing rape erotica with my belief that upholding a rape culture is negative to society.

I’m going to be looking at the types of responses, and what I think on them, in parts.

Part 1 – Infantalizing Women

Underneath a lot of the replies was skepticism of feminism, and of the term ‘Rape Culture’. They brought up many things that I agree with — that the idea of continual consent puts the onus on the man to ‘take care’ of his female partner in case she changes her mind and doesn’t inform him. That relying on body language for consent, even if she says yes, is tricky at best, and impossible at worst.

Read more

Category: Culture | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , ,
| February 16, 2013
16 comments

Games Imitating Life: Rape Culture in MMORPGs?

Contrary to the Kotaku article, no one was accused of rape in game at any point, and that is not the point of this blog post. Any comment that suggests that someone was accused of rape, or attempted rape, will not be approved.

 

A curious event happened to me recently while roleplaying, and I’ll use direct quotes whenever appropriate. For those of you not familiar, I’ll explain things. Roleplaying, being the act of taking on the role of a character that’s not yourself, is traditionally done through tabletop games like Dungeons and Dragons. With the rise in popularity of massively multiplayer online roleplaying games (MMORPGs) it’s taken on a different turn in the online space with people playing out scenes as their avatars (their usually three-dimensional computer generated character) in an online world.

These days I play Guild Wars 2 (GW2), a recent and fairly popular MMORPG set in the fantasy world of Tyria. Read more

Category: Culture, Media, Personal | Tags: , , , , , , ,
| February 5, 2013
10 comments

Introduction: Class, Poverty, Gender and Violence

A particularly insightful article by a blogger here got me to thinking quite a lot lately. More importantly it got me to writing and the subsequent post has ended up serving as my introduction in returning to blogging with my partner here.

I’ve had the good fortune of being a cis gendered male born into a wealthy western country. Even though I began life in one of the poorest corners of that nation, I count myself fortunate in many ways. Read more

Category: Culture, Personal | Tags: , , , , , , , , ,
| November 26, 2012
2 comments

Rape Fantasies

Trigger warning.

The reality of rape is so disgusting and vile to me that I get physically ill thinking about it too much. I cry for days when I hear about a group that suffers at the hands of rapists such as in the Congo. I always thought I was unable to cope with it, but then I realized that no – my sexual arousal is how I cope.

What I feel about actual rape is so negative, so all encompassing, that my body practically shuts down. It’s unable to deal with the rush of emotions, and it seems to balance that out. It seeks to balance it out with pleasure – and in this case, it’s sexual.

Read more

Category: Culture | Tags: , ,
| November 12, 2012
No comments

Mad Men, Joan, and The Rape

-Trigger warning about rape and domestic violence. Spoiler warning up to Season 5, Episode 3 of Mad Men-

Joan left her husband, Greg, in Mad Men. She informed him that he is not a good person, and that he wasn’t a good person even before his most recent action and “you know exactly what I’m talking about.”

And as a viewer? Yes, yes we did. We watched, horrified and disgusted while he raped her. And it was, undoubtedly, rape. Even though they were in a relationship. Even though she later married him. Even though she was dressed like she ‘wanted’ to be raped, as a charming fellow put it in season 4. Even though she had a history of sexual promiscuity. Even though she at times used her sexuality to get her way.

Read more

Category: Media | Tags: , , , , , ,
| November 5, 2012
4 comments

Victim Blaming

Trigger Warning: Sexual Assault

I left this comment on a local website in response to a sexual assault and the fact that 69% of voters in a poll feel that women aren’t doing enough to protect themselves from date rape drugs.

Read more

Category: Culture, Personal | Tags: , , , , ,
| October 29, 2012
6 comments

Taboo Erotica

Trigger warning – sexualized violence (consensual and non)

I’ve been exploring my sexuality since I was a six year old girl, when I first stumbled upon my father’s Playboys. The first thing I did when I got the Internet was start looking up pornography – specifically hentai, since I loved Sailor Moon at the time. I also read a lot – fiction and non-fiction – that focused frequently on taboo topics – V.C. Andrews is filed under 12+ in my local book stores. I was fascinated by the sex trade, sexual slavery, rape, incest, and sexual deviance as a whole.

Read more

Category: Culture, Media, Personal | Tags: , , , , , , , , ,
| April 11, 2012
5 comments

Bodice Rippers

-Trigger Warnings-

Forced seduction. Bodice Rippers. Blackmail. Coercion. Stalking. Dominance.

Romance novels are filled with rape that isn’t called rape. If she says no, and he keeps forcing her into sex, that’s not forced seduction. That’s rape. If he tells her that she has to have sex with him or he’ll reveal a secret she’s been keeping, that’s rape. If he follows her, tells her that she doesn’t know what she’s doing, that they’re meant to be together, then has sex with her despite protests, that’s rape.

Read more

Category: Media | Tags: , , , ,
| April 9, 2012
One comment

Vampire Ephebophilia

-Trigger Warnings-

Buffy is 15-16 years old when Angel sees her and falls in love with her. He looks to be about 20 or 21, but in reality, he’s over 200 years old.

According to other media, we should be really creeped out. In Pretty Persuasion, we’re supposed to be disgusted by the two 30-something men talking about the two 15 year old girls, after all. We think they’re too old for them, that a sexual relationship with them would have extreme power imbalances. It would be, above that, disgusting, and the fact that they can’t relate to women their own age would be used against them.

Read more

Category: Culture, Media | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , ,
| March 21, 2012
5 comments

(Role)playing the Victim

-Trigger Warning for discussion about rape and violence against men and women-

I was reading an interesting article last year that got me thinking about how victims are expected to be portrayed in text based roleplay communities, especially those who have experienced sexual abuse or violence.

It was about a female journalist who, after seeing the pain and anguish in another woman after she saw one of the men who raped her after the Haitian earthquake, got Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

Read more

Category: Culture, Media | Tags: , ,
« Older Entries  
%d bloggers like this: