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| February 18, 2013
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Rape Culture Part 1 – Infantalizing Women

Trigger Warning for discussion of rape, rape fantasies, consensual non-consent, and BDSM. This is a 6 part series that will be updated weekly, focusing on rape culture, rape fantasies, and consent.

I joined a group on FetLife that was dedicated to rape fantasies. My goal was to explore how to reconcile having rape fantasies, and writing rape erotica with my belief that upholding a rape culture is negative to society.

I’m going to be looking at the types of responses, and what I think on them, in parts.

Part 1 – Infantalizing Women

Underneath a lot of the replies was skepticism of feminism, and of the term ‘Rape Culture’. They brought up many things that I agree with — that the idea of continual consent puts the onus on the man to ‘take care’ of his female partner in case she changes her mind and doesn’t inform him. That relying on body language for consent, even if she says yes, is tricky at best, and impossible at worst.

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| February 14, 2013
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Cock Worship

Just in time for Valentine’s Day! I forgot to tell everyone that I blogged about Cock Worship over on One Handed Writers:

When you think of it and boil it down, who wouldn’t want to feel like they’re so mind blowing it makes others weak in the knees and light in the head? Who wouldn’t want their body licked and sucked and treated so well, especially the part that can feel those sensations so much more acutely?

Who wouldn’t want every square inch of their sex explored by their loving, doting partner who just selflessly desires that you lay back and enjoy while they get off on giving praise to your sexy body? To feel their hands and mouth and tongue doting upon you, viscous saliva from deep in their throat slickening and lubricating your skin so that all you can feel is the exquisite dedication of your lover?

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We also released Amy’s Innocence – Part 2. First time pain, second time pleasure!

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| February 10, 2013
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Fetlife Brings Back Issue of Paypal Erotica Censorship

Fetlife is no longer allowed* hosting incest, zoophilia or scat.** It doesn’t matter if it’s consensual, and between two adults. It doesn’t matter if it’s fantasy. It doesn’t matter if they’re just idle desires that no one would act out on. On their announcement notice, they say:

From all the research we’ve done over the past two weeks, the Big 4 no-no’s are:

1. Anything Under 18.

2. Incest. (Even between consenting adults.)

3. Zoophilia.

4. Scat.

We won’t even be able to allow people to fantasize about incest (between consensual adults), zoophilia, or scat… if we want to continue to be there for the community.

In a story that will sound familiar to erotica authors from last year around the same time, Fetlife’s payment processor cut off their service and threatened to fine them after finding pictures of cartoon jokes of the Simpson’s characters having sex, among other things.

For those of you unfamiliar with the Paypal Censorship issue of last winter, PayPal told Smashwords, All Romance eBooks, and other sites that PayPal would no longer serve them as a client if they continued to host erotica with rape, incest, bestiality or scat.**

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| December 17, 2012
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Normalizing and Desexualizing Kinks

People’s kinks are varied and diverse, and often trail into realms that they’re not interested in or comfortable with in real life. Porn, and other sexual outlets, allow us to explore these things with minimal impact on our day to day life.

However there’s certain people who crave for 24/7 lifestyle fantasies that sometimes involve not all partners realizing the full extent of what it is. While browsing on FetLife the other day, I stumbled across a group that was dedicated to one woman’s fantasy of being sexually harassed in an massively multiplayer online game (MMO or MMORPG).

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| November 26, 2012
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Rape Fantasies

Trigger warning.

The reality of rape is so disgusting and vile to me that I get physically ill thinking about it too much. I cry for days when I hear about a group that suffers at the hands of rapists such as in the Congo. I always thought I was unable to cope with it, but then I realized that no – my sexual arousal is how I cope.

What I feel about actual rape is so negative, so all encompassing, that my body practically shuts down. It’s unable to deal with the rush of emotions, and it seems to balance that out. It seeks to balance it out with pleasure – and in this case, it’s sexual.

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| October 29, 2012
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Taboo Erotica

Trigger warning – sexualized violence (consensual and non)

I’ve been exploring my sexuality since I was a six year old girl, when I first stumbled upon my father’s Playboys. The first thing I did when I got the Internet was start looking up pornography – specifically hentai, since I loved Sailor Moon at the time. I also read a lot – fiction and non-fiction – that focused frequently on taboo topics – V.C. Andrews is filed under 12+ in my local book stores. I was fascinated by the sex trade, sexual slavery, rape, incest, and sexual deviance as a whole.

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| April 18, 2012
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Pedophilia

Pedophilia has nothing to do with actions and everything to do with desires. A pedophile has not molested a child. Child molesters have molested a child as it has everything to do with actions and, often times, very little to do with physical desires.

Because of our complications and confusions of these two terms, particularly in news reporting, we’re cutting down on our compassion and empathy for a group of people with disturbing desires that can be helped. Because of the stigma associated with the word ‘pedophile’, very few seek the help that they should, and without a support network that helps them deal with their unhealthy desires, they may be more likely to actually offend.

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| March 10, 2012
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Blog Roundup

Welcome to another blog roundup! A lot of interesting food for thought here. I don’t fully agree with everything linked below, but all links got me thinking, which is the most important thing.

A quick reminder that I guest blogged at Eden Connor’s blog: Women Desire Taboos in Their Erotica

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| March 5, 2012
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Eden Connor Interview

This weekend, I did an interview with Eden Connor about Paypal, Erotica, and Female Desires. Go check it out and say hello!

She’s also doing other interviews with readers and writers recently affected by the erotica ban like Sessha Batto and Remittance Girl.

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| February 29, 2012
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Paypal’s Corporate Power

Not Safe for Work. Discussion about erotica and taboos.

Last week soured me.

Some of you have probably already heard about Paypal and their issues with Bookstrand and Smashwords, but for those of you that don’t follow those circles, Paypal has forced them (and paypal says they were forced by one of the credit card companies) to no longer allow websites to be served by them if they have certain content.

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