Not Safe for Work. Discussion about erotica and taboos.
Last week soured me.
Some of you have probably already heard about Paypal and their issues with Bookstrand and Smashwords, but for those of you that don’t follow those circles, Paypal has forced them (and paypal says they were forced by one of the credit card companies) to no longer allow websites to be served by them if they have certain content.
Not Safe For Work – Contains Adult Content.
Taboos are different for everyone. Sure, there are some overarching topics that are pretty standard across North America as being taboo such as incest, but for the most part, one person’s taboo erotica is another person’s vanilla pudding.
So this week I’ve fucked up my wrists, which sucks a lot – especially since there’s a big hubbub with Paypal and Bookstrand and indie published erotica that contains pseudo incest and BDSM and barely legal teens.
Smashwords has also joined the fray to ban rape, bestiality, and incest. Unfortunately this really puts a damper on some books that we had written and ready for editing. Are there alternatives for well written hardcore or dark erotica with rape and incest? Please share the link below.
I wrote before about barriers and piracy, but this time I want to narrow in on a single barrier.
The biggest barrier for indie publishers (of all media) is not being known. No one is going to buy your book, or game, or movie, or anything else if they don’t know you or it even exists.
Links not safe for work.
It’s no secret that trolls aim below the belt. That’s what they do. They hit not where they think they’ll hurt the most, but where they think they’ll get the biggest reaction. That’s why on fat acceptance blogs you get trolls calling the women fat, and why on feminist blogs you’ll get trolls calling the women bitches and telling them that they should get back in the kitchen.
It’s not that these people even believe in the things they’re spouting so much as they’re looking for attention.
Trigger warning for discussion of sexual harassment.
I was reading on Geekfeminism about how common it is for women to be hit on and harassed online to the point that most women are silent about it because it’s just such a common occurrence – leading men to be unaware that this exists.
Figured I’d post a few of the interesting blogs I’ve read this week! Have you read anything interesting recently?
Is There Something Unsexy About Playing Video Games?
My Self-Publishing Roller Coaster. And Porn. And Wow, I Need to Lose Weight.
Writing and Publishing Indie Porn: Tips from the Trenches
ON THE DEATH OF WHITNEY HOUSTON: Why I Won’t Ever Shut Up About My Drug Use
Vancouver billionaire gets slapped on the wrist after confining a sex worker
That Time I Worked at a Sex Club
Don’t Panic (But Keep Your Towel Handy)
World Building Wednesdays: The Coin of the Realm- Resource Gathering
If You Write It, They Will Come
Space for Rent: Video Games as Art
Book Promotion Roundup – Useful Articles for New Authors
How to be a Fan of Problematic Things
Like it or not: Breaking or Bending Consent in Erotic Fiction
These are articles rather than blogs, but still very interesting.
Trigger Warning for discussion of sex work. Pictures NSFW.
I want to talk about the sex industry as a whole and the polarization between different types of feminists when it comes to this industry. Please note that any time I use the word ‘objectify’, I use it as it’s commonly used throughout some feminist media – particularly sex negative media – to describe when a man lusts for a woman based on physicality alone. I will also note that I do not agree with this usage of the term as it lessens its impact when used to describe true objectification.
My white privilege post got me thinking about racism, perception, and arguments some people have used when analyzing fiction, especially in regards to there being a right and wrong way to portray a group. My focus, of course, is on fantasy and science fiction, because of the ways that racism will differ in a world where ‘race’ as we know it doesn’t exist, since race in our world is a cultural concept rather than a physical one. In most fantasy and sci-fi, other races have physical, cultural and mental differences that we simply don’t have on Earth.
Potential Trigger Warnings for rape and sexual violence.
I get off on the fantasy of rape, non-consent, reluctance, dubious consent, etc. It’s one of my favourite kinks to write erotica about.
That’s not an easy thing to admit as a self-described feminist. Even though a large percentage of women (and men!) do have rape fantasies, it still feels so wrong. It feels dirty, but it’s what turns me on. Read more
